I believe every woman has a burning desire to be that confident woman who has it all together to the point where she dominates the atmosphere when she enters the room. On the contrary, if you are the woman, who has not yet made her debut; no worries! Help is on the way, keep reading.
If you want to be more confident, then you also need to be more independent. After all, self-confidence is all about having faith in your abilities and decisions. If you do not know how to be alone or do not feel you can do things without the assistance of others, then you will not experience that authentic confidence and independence that you’re trying to achieve.
The problem is that many of us struggle to be alone or do things for ourselves. Part of this comes down to a sheer lack of practice. If you went straight from living with your parents to living with a partner or friends, with those circumstances, you might have never experienced fending for yourself.
Equally, some of us will spend all of our spare time with others to the cusp that we do not take part in much of our own identity or purpose when left to our own devices.
If you cannot endure the thought of spending an evening alone, then you need a quick boost in independence.
So, how do you attain more independence?
One of the best ways to carry out this is to drop yourself in the deep end, as it were. That means packing a bag and heading off on a trip alone for a couple of days.
The more of an adventure this is, the better. That may mean escaping your comfort zone by undertaking something out of the ordinary such as backpacking, indulging in conversations with strangers, or it might mean traveling somewhere where no one speaks your language.
It might just surprise you what you’re capable of when left to your imagination!
2. Avoid the temptation to call for help
A DIY project is a great place to experiment with this.
Has the toilet stopped flushing? Do you have a hole in the wall that looks unsightly?
Instead of calling for help, search YouTube and try to sort it yourself. Being self-sufficient is empowering and can-do wonders for your esteem. It will also make you far less dependent on others.
3. Find Yourself
Spending a little time alone is also a good idea for building your independence. Even if you live with a partner or friend, try to spend time apart to pursue your interests. When you are trying to find yourself the first thing that you have to ask yourself is, “what makes me truly happy?” Discovering who you allow your potential to shine with giving you a mindset that you can accomplish anything if you put the work into it. It’s time to figure out who you are and where you want to go in life. Let’s take a look at a few ideas that can be useful in your self-care journey.
- Visit your favorite coffee shop for a change of scenery.
- Enjoy an outdoor walk.
- Find a quiet place where you can read a book or do some journaling.
- Make a list of your goals and dreams.
4. Find a hobby
Finding a hobby is one of the most important things you can do to boost your independence; this will give you a way to entertain your thoughts, spend time alone, and develop a skill. Below are a few examples of hobbies that may be of interest.
While these tips are not problematic, it does take time to become more independent and confident. Give yourself space and time to do these things and grow in your independence.
Start with the first tip. When you start to feel more confident in stepping out on your own, then move on to the next tip until you find yourself easily able to do all four tips on your own.
Do you have tips that have helped you become a more confident, independent person? Share them with us in the comments below.